We often hear people saying, "Communication is key." Communication is the key that is supposed to save relationships, end fights, and bring us all closer together as people. Or so they say.
Disclaimer, I don't necessarily think "stop crying, start moving" is bad advice, I think it's wrong advice when we pair it with the "you're acting like a baby" insult. You might learn a thing because this is about you, not the baby!
American culture centers around the idea of being a leader. We're convinced that leaders are intelligent (both academically and emotionally), valuable, and desirable. Consequently, to label somebody as a follower is to insult their intelligence, value and desirability. We don't believe we can trust followers the way we trust leaders because they're just not commanding. … Continue reading On Being a Leader vs. a Follower
Last night, our pastor's wife said that God gives us something specific to do in every season. I've come to realize the season I am. It's not marked by a solstice, the weather or the color of the leaves, rather the emotion that I need to confront. Which is, per the title, fear. Fear may … Continue reading Fear Distorts Perception
...the milk I pumped for baby was green!
Numbness made it easy for me to talk myself into doing stupid things or to talk myself out of doing really awesome things. I was doing things and saying things that were contradictory to my emotional truth because I couldn't feel. The beat of my heart was too quiet against the loud traffic of my thoughts.
Nostalgia is a human memory phenomenon. Defined as "a wistful affection for the past," wistful meaning "full of desire tinged with melancholy." We talk about the past as if it was our high school sweetheart. Even if the sweetheart was not sweet. That's usually the case, today is just another departure from the good old … Continue reading The Sin of Nostalgia
This year has been an eye-opener. I think everyone says that every year and that's a good thing, it means that we are moving forward or at least touching the deeper meanings of life. But, seriously, it feels as though this year kept my eyelids peeled back until the dryness of my eyeballs was no … Continue reading Setting Boundaries (intro)
I originally planned to use today's blog to explain why I won't share any photographs of my baby online. Why? I guess because I feel strongly about consent and privacy of minors, among other things. So I spent an hour writing out my point-of-view... Then, I heard a Fatherly voice say, "who cares?" Well, hello, I … Continue reading Just let go already
Most unbelievers think that God does not want us to be free because He gives us rules to live by. I'm starting a short series about Freedom in Christianity because I want to challenge that idea. The right to freedom used to be one of my arguments for living a life of sin. "God loves … Continue reading You are Free to be Free (pt. 1)